9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
Self-confidence is enormously sexy to a woman. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that, more than a man’s good looks and more than his gentlemanly manner, confidence is the trigger trait that makes a woman want to get naked.
You reminisce that scene in Goodfellas when Ray Liotta takes Lorraine Bracco to the Copa? He slips her through the back door, tipping heavies the entire way, talking up other wiseguys, and eventually ending up at a table in front of the stage. Liotta had something much more significant than a roll of Franklins: He had confidence. And its effect on Bracco was clear. You knew he was getting laid that night.
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"Women want a man with steel ballsack," says R. Don Steele, without a hint of irony in his voice. Steele is the author of Figure Language Secrets: A Guide during Courtship and Dating. "This desire is evolutionary. Females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is certain in his capability to provide and protect."
Simply put, confidence gets the dame. So if you want to be more attractive to women, display your bravado. But I don’t mean by pounding your chest or the tipsy at the end of the bar. You don’t have to be a wiseguy to make yourself instantly irresistible. Here are some more-effective mechanisms.
"Women look very first at your attire and 2nd at how you walk," says Steele. Keep your wardrobe stylish and impeccable. Ashley Rothschild, a Los Angeles-based photo consultant, suggests you emulate the look of a successful public man in your business arena. She also thinks you’d look hot in a leather jacket. It’s classic. It’s Steve McQueen.
Your stride? Slow down. "Certain people are not in a hurry," says Steele. "But there’s a difference inbetween meandering and walking leisurely with purpose. Always walk as if you know what you’re doing and where you’re going."
Tell her you love her dimples while staring at her feet and you’ll reek of emotional insecurity. If locking eyes with a stranger feels awkward, concentrate on her mouth and she’ll never know the difference, says Renee Piane, a motivational speaker and author of Love Mechanics: Power Devices to Build Successful Relationships. Staring elsewhere makes you emerge uninterested, inattentive, or insincere—especially during sweet talk.
Also, she’ll react best to realistic compliments. "You’re the physical embodiment of everything I look for in a woman" will instantaneously set off her bullsh–t alarm. "You’ve got beautiful eyelashes" will make her redden.
When she says she likes your dimples, simply "smile and say thank you," says Susan RoAne, author of How to Work a Room. Insecure people deflect compliments by asking, "Indeed? You think so?" or by listing reasons they don’t deserve the compliment. Secure people accept praise gracefully and without ado.
She gave you her number. Use it within forty eight hours or you’ll look either frightened or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games. Jumpy? Manage the cold call as you would a business call.
"Executives are action-oriented, gathering information and wasting no time in getting a project began. Apply these tactics to your private life," suggests Judith Coche, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Pennsylvania. "If you fail, stir on. It’s not about private rejection—it’s the business of making stuff work," says Coche.
If you get her voice mail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately noisy. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.
"Say who you are, where you met, and why you’re calling," says Kent Sayre, author of Unstoppable Confidence. "Don’t seek her approval. Instead, ask a question that presupposes her interest in you, like, ‘How soon would you like to get together?’ That way it’s not a matter of yes or no." Leave your number and ask her to call you back. If she doesn’t, call her again a duo of days later.
Don’t Expose Your Negatives
When talking about yourself, keep it positive. Stick to your best attributes and the interests you’re most sultry about. "Give the press-release version of you," says Kate Wachs, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Relationships for Dummies. "Tell her everything good about your life that you wouldn’t mind watching in 4-inch-high letters on the front page of the newspaper the next morning."
Skill breeds confidence. Do you know where to sit during a dinner date? Always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her instead of straight on, says Steele. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the very first seat to her left.
Turn toward her from the mid-body, which will give her the chance to turn toward you. "Women don’t like a full-frontal onslaught. It’s intimidating," says Steele. "A certain man realizes he should give the woman the choice to turn to him, and he is sure that she will."
If you’d like to go into her apartment, tell her at the door—and skip the excuse about needing to use her bathroom. Want to smooch her goodnight? Go for it. "Smooching someone is an emotional thing, and asking [permission] diverts it into a cognitive area instead," says Wachs. "Women hate that."
A certain man doesn’t feel emasculated if the woman he’s with makes more money than he does; he takes it as a compliment. "More than ever, successful single women earning more than $60K a year are looking for warm, loving fellows," says Coche. "They’re more selective in their playmate choice because they can afford to reprioritize."
Truth is, she wouldn’t be dating you if she didn’t at least want to think you’re a catch. It’s when you believe it yourself that she’ll be wooed.
9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
Self-confidence is utterly sexy to a woman. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that, more than a man’s good looks and more than his gentlemanly manner, confidence is the trigger trait that makes a woman want to get naked.
You recall that scene in Goodfellas when Ray Liotta takes Lorraine Bracco to the Copa? He slips her through the back door, tipping heavies the entire way, talking up other wiseguys, and ultimately ending up at a table in front of the stage. Liotta had something much more significant than a roll of Franklins: He had confidence. And its effect on Bracco was clear. You knew he was getting laid that night.
You may unsubscribe at any time.
"Women want a man with steel nut sack," says R. Don Steele, without a hint of irony in his voice. Steele is the author of Assets Language Secrets: A Guide during Courtship and Dating. "This desire is evolutionary. Females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is certain in his capability to provide and protect."
Simply put, confidence gets the doll. So if you want to be more attractive to women, showcase your bravado. But I don’t mean by pounding your chest or the tipsy at the end of the bar. You don’t have to be a wiseguy to make yourself instantly irresistible. Here are some more-effective technics.
"Women look very first at your attire and 2nd at how you walk," says Steele. Keep your wardrobe stylish and impeccable. Ashley Rothschild, a Los Angeles-based pic consultant, suggests you emulate the look of a successful public man in your business arena. She also thinks you’d look hot in a leather jacket. It’s classic. It’s Steve McQueen.
Your stride? Slow down. "Certain people are not in a hurry," says Steele. "But there’s a difference inbetween meandering and walking leisurely with purpose. Always walk as if you know what you’re doing and where you’re going."
Tell her you love her dimples while gawping at her feet and you’ll reek of emotional insecurity. If locking eyes with a stranger feels awkward, concentrate on her mouth and she’ll never know the difference, says Renee Piane, a motivational speaker and author of Love Mechanics: Power Devices to Build Successful Relationships. Staring elsewhere makes you emerge uninterested, inattentive, or insincere—especially during sweet talk.
Also, she’ll react best to realistic compliments. "You’re the physical embodiment of everything I look for in a woman" will instantly set off her bullsh–t alarm. "You’ve got beautiful eyelashes" will make her redden.
When she says she likes your dimples, simply "smile and say thank you," says Susan RoAne, author of How to Work a Room. Insecure people deflect compliments by asking, "Indeed? You think so?" or by listing reasons they don’t deserve the compliment. Secure people accept praise gracefully and without ado.
She gave you her number. Use it within forty eight hours or you’ll look either frightened or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games. Jumpy? Manage the cold call as you would a business call.
"Executives are action-oriented, gathering information and wasting no time in getting a project embarked. Apply these tactics to your private life," suggests Judith Coche, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Pennsylvania. "If you fail, budge on. It’s not about individual rejection—it’s the business of making stuff work," says Coche.
If you get her voice mail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately noisy. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.
"Say who you are, where you met, and why you’re calling," says Kent Sayre, author of Unstoppable Confidence. "Don’t seek her approval. Instead, ask a question that presupposes her interest in you, like, ‘How soon would you like to get together?’ That way it’s not a matter of yes or no." Leave your number and ask her to call you back. If she doesn’t, call her again a duo of days later.
Don’t Expose Your Negatives
When talking about yourself, keep it positive. Stick to your best attributes and the interests you’re most sultry about. "Give the press-release version of you," says Kate Wachs, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Relationships for Dummies. "Tell her everything good about your life that you wouldn’t mind eyeing in 4-inch-high letters on the front page of the newspaper the next morning."
Skill breeds confidence. Do you know where to sit during a dinner date? Always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her instead of straight on, says Steele. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the very first seat to her left.
Turn toward her from the midbody, which will give her the chance to turn toward you. "Women don’t like a full-frontal onslaught. It’s intimidating," says Steele. "A certain man realizes he should give the woman the choice to turn to him, and he is sure that she will."
If you’d like to go into her apartment, tell her at the door—and skip the excuse about needing to use her bathroom. Want to smooch her goodnight? Go for it. "Smooching someone is an emotional thing, and asking [permission] diverts it into a cognitive sphere instead," says Wachs. "Women hate that."
A certain man doesn’t feel emasculated if the woman he’s with makes more money than he does; he takes it as a compliment. "More than ever, successful single women earning more than $60K a year are looking for warm, loving dudes," says Coche. "They’re more selective in their fucking partner choice because they can afford to reprioritize."
Truth is, she wouldn’t be dating you if she didn’t at least want to think you’re a catch. It’s when you believe it yourself that she’ll be persuaded.
9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
Self-confidence is utterly sexy to a woman. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that, more than a man’s good looks and more than his gentlemanly manner, confidence is the trigger trait that makes a woman want to get naked.
You reminisce that scene in Goodfellas when Ray Liotta takes Lorraine Bracco to the Copa? He slips her through the back door, tipping heavies the entire way, talking up other wiseguys, and ultimately ending up at a table in front of the stage. Liotta had something much more significant than a roll of Franklins: He had confidence. And its effect on Bracco was clear. You knew he was getting laid that night.
You may unsubscribe at any time.
"Women want a man with steel ball-sac," says R. Don Steele, without a hint of irony in his voice. Steele is the author of Figure Language Secrets: A Guide during Courtship and Dating. "This desire is evolutionary. Females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is certain in his capability to provide and protect."
Simply put, confidence gets the damsel. So if you want to be more attractive to women, showcase your bravado. But I don’t mean by pounding your chest or the tipsy at the end of the bar. You don’t have to be a wiseguy to make yourself instantly irresistible. Here are some more-effective mechanisms.
"Women look very first at your attire and 2nd at how you walk," says Steele. Keep your wardrobe stylish and impeccable. Ashley Rothschild, a Los Angeles-based pic consultant, suggests you emulate the look of a successful public man in your business arena. She also thinks you’d look hot in a leather jacket. It’s classic. It’s Steve McQueen.
Your stride? Slow down. "Certain people are not in a hurry," says Steele. "But there’s a difference inbetween meandering and walking leisurely with purpose. Always walk as if you know what you’re doing and where you’re going."
Tell her you love her dimples while staring at her feet and you’ll reek of emotional insecurity. If locking eyes with a stranger feels awkward, concentrate on her mouth and she’ll never know the difference, says Renee Piane, a motivational speaker and author of Love Mechanics: Power Devices to Build Successful Relationships. Staring elsewhere makes you emerge uninterested, inattentive, or insincere—especially during sweet talk.
Also, she’ll react best to realistic compliments. "You’re the physical embodiment of everything I look for in a woman" will instantly set off her bullsh–t alarm. "You’ve got beautiful eyelashes" will make her redden.
When she says she likes your dimples, simply "smile and say thank you," says Susan RoAne, author of How to Work a Room. Insecure people deflect compliments by asking, "Indeed? You think so?" or by listing reasons they don’t deserve the compliment. Secure people accept praise gracefully and without ado.
She gave you her number. Use it within forty eight hours or you’ll look either startled or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games. Jumpy? Manage the cold call as you would a business call.
"Executives are action-oriented, gathering information and wasting no time in getting a project began. Apply these tactics to your private life," suggests Judith Coche, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Pennsylvania. "If you fail, stir on. It’s not about individual rejection—it’s the business of making stuff work," says Coche.
If you get her voice mail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately noisy. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.
"Say who you are, where you met, and why you’re calling," says Kent Sayre, author of Unstoppable Confidence. "Don’t seek her approval. Instead, ask a question that presupposes her interest in you, like, ‘How soon would you like to get together?’ That way it’s not a matter of yes or no." Leave your number and ask her to call you back. If she doesn’t, call her again a duo of days later.
Don’t Expose Your Negatives
When talking about yourself, keep it positive. Stick to your best attributes and the interests you’re most sultry about. "Give the press-release version of you," says Kate Wachs, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Relationships for Dummies. "Tell her everything good about your life that you wouldn’t mind observing in 4-inch-high letters on the front page of the newspaper the next morning."
Skill breeds confidence. Do you know where to sit during a dinner date? Always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her instead of straight on, says Steele. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the very first seat to her left.
Turn toward her from the waistline, which will give her the chance to turn toward you. "Women don’t like a full-frontal brunt. It’s intimidating," says Steele. "A certain man realizes he should give the woman the choice to turn to him, and he is sure that she will."
If you’d like to go into her apartment, tell her at the door—and skip the excuse about needing to use her bathroom. Want to smooch her goodnight? Go for it. "Smooching someone is an emotional thing, and asking [permission] diverts it into a cognitive area instead," says Wachs. "Women hate that."
A certain man doesn’t feel emasculated if the woman he’s with makes more money than he does; he takes it as a compliment. "More than ever, successful single women earning more than $60K a year are looking for warm, loving studs," says Coche. "They’re more selective in their playmate choice because they can afford to reprioritize."
Truth is, she wouldn’t be dating you if she didn’t at least want to think you’re a catch. It’s when you believe it yourself that she’ll be wooed.
9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
9 Tricks to Confidently Pick Up Any Woman
Self-confidence is enormously sexy to a woman. In fact, I’d go so far as to say that, more than a man’s good looks and more than his gentlemanly manner, confidence is the trigger trait that makes a woman want to get naked.
You recall that scene in Goodfellas when Ray Liotta takes Lorraine Bracco to the Copa? He slips her through the back door, tipping heavies the entire way, talking up other wiseguys, and eventually ending up at a table in front of the stage. Liotta had something much more significant than a roll of Franklins: He had confidence. And its effect on Bracco was clear. You knew he was getting laid that night.
You may unsubscribe at any time.
"Women want a man with steel nutsack," says R. Don Steele, without a hint of irony in his voice. Steele is the author of Bod Language Secrets: A Guide during Courtship and Dating. "This desire is evolutionary. Females want someone who’s not going to run from a fight, a man who is certain in his capability to provide and protect."
Simply put, confidence gets the chick. So if you want to be more attractive to women, display your bravado. But I don’t mean by pounding your chest or the tipsy at the end of the bar. You don’t have to be a wiseguy to make yourself instantly irresistible. Here are some more-effective technics.
"Women look very first at your attire and 2nd at how you walk," says Steele. Keep your wardrobe stylish and impeccable. Ashley Rothschild, a Los Angeles-based pic consultant, suggests you emulate the look of a successful public man in your business arena. She also thinks you’d look hot in a leather jacket. It’s classic. It’s Steve McQueen.
Your stride? Slow down. "Certain people are not in a hurry," says Steele. "But there’s a difference inbetween meandering and walking leisurely with purpose. Always walk as if you know what you’re doing and where you’re going."
Tell her you love her dimples while staring at her feet and you’ll reek of emotional insecurity. If locking eyes with a stranger feels awkward, concentrate on her mouth and she’ll never know the difference, says Renee Piane, a motivational speaker and author of Love Mechanics: Power Devices to Build Successful Relationships. Staring elsewhere makes you emerge uninterested, inattentive, or insincere—especially during sweet talk.
Also, she’ll react best to realistic compliments. "You’re the physical embodiment of everything I look for in a woman" will instantaneously set off her bullsh–t alarm. "You’ve got beautiful eyelashes" will make her redden.
When she says she likes your dimples, simply "smile and say thank you," says Susan RoAne, author of How to Work a Room. Insecure people deflect compliments by asking, "Truly? You think so?" or by listing reasons they don’t deserve the compliment. Secure people accept praise gracefully and without ado.
She gave you her number. Use it within forty eight hours or you’ll look either panicked or stupid for resorting to high-school mind games. Jumpy? Manage the cold call as you would a business call.
"Executives are action-oriented, gathering information and wasting no time in getting a project embarked. Apply these tactics to your private life," suggests Judith Coche, Ph.D., a clinical psychologist and professor at the University of Pennsylvania. "If you fail, stir on. It’s not about private rejection—it’s the business of making stuff work," says Coche.
If you get her voice mail, leave a message. To convey confidence, your voice should be deep and moderately noisy. Stand up and hum a little before you call—it will bring your voice to the ideal pitch.
"Say who you are, where you met, and why you’re calling," says Kent Sayre, author of Unstoppable Confidence. "Don’t seek her approval. Instead, ask a question that presupposes her interest in you, like, ‘How soon would you like to get together?’ That way it’s not a matter of yes or no." Leave your number and ask her to call you back. If she doesn’t, call her again a duo of days later.
Don’t Expose Your Negatives
When talking about yourself, keep it positive. Stick to your best attributes and the interests you’re most sultry about. "Give the press-release version of you," says Kate Wachs, Ph.D., a psychologist and author of Relationships for Dummies. "Tell her everything good about your life that you wouldn’t mind witnessing in 4-inch-high letters on the front page of the newspaper the next morning."
Skill breeds confidence. Do you know where to sit during a dinner date? Always position yourself at a 90-degree angle to her instead of straight on, says Steele. If she sits at the end of the table, sit in the very first seat to her left.
Turn toward her from the mid-body, which will give her the chance to turn toward you. "Women don’t like a full-frontal brunt. It’s intimidating," says Steele. "A certain man realizes he should give the woman the choice to turn to him, and he is sure that she will."
If you’d like to go into her apartment, tell her at the door—and skip the excuse about needing to use her bathroom. Want to smooch her goodnight? Go for it. "Smooching someone is an emotional thing, and asking [permission] diverts it into a cognitive field instead," says Wachs. "Women hate that."
A certain man doesn’t feel emasculated if the woman he’s with makes more money than he does; he takes it as a compliment. "More than ever, successful single women earning more than $60K a year are looking for warm, loving boys," says Coche. "They’re more selective in their playmate choice because they can afford to reprioritize."
Truth is, she wouldn’t be dating you if she didn’t at least want to think you’re a catch. It’s when you believe it yourself that she’ll be wooed.