Ten ways you are being unfaithful to your spouse
Ten ways you are being unfaithful to your spouse — and you don't even know it
Having an affair is not even on your radar. Never gonna happen. You love your spouse and you’d never be unfaithful to her or him. However, you may be unaware of other ways you are being unfaithful. If these deeds proceed, you may find yourself on the lubricious slope that leads to that never-intended affair and a sorrow you never desired in your life.
Unfaithfulness usually creeps in through the back door, disguising itself as harmless joy or virginal behavior. If you want your marriage to bear and be packed with happiness you may need to check this list to see if you have fallen prey to any of these unfaithful behaviors.
1. Flirting
Having a little playful joy at the office with a co-worker can’t be too bad, you may rationalize. After all, flirting is joy. Avoid it like the plague. It’s dangerous. If someone flirts with you, overlook it. What falls into the category of flirting? Here’s one explanation of what flirting is. "[It] usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater closeness than the actual relationship inbetween the parties would justify, tho’ within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. Figure language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, etc."
Married people should never engage in this type of behavior with anyone other than their spouse. It is a full-on form of unfaithfulness that leads to no good. The one you’re flirting with may take it as an invitation and pursue a relationship you never intended.
Two. Confiding in the opposite gender
When you pour out your troubles to someone of the opposite gender you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position. It may seem harmless. After all, you just needed a shoulder to sob on. If you’ve got a problem, talk about it with your spouse. That’s your best-ever shoulder to sob on. If that’s not working for you, attempt a trusted relative, clergyman, or therapist. Not someone who may consider this an invitation for intimity. Even if it doesn’t begin that way, too often it finishes that way. It’s a form of unfaithfulness.
Three. Spending time alone with someone else
What shows up to be an harmless lunch out with someone of the opposite hook-up or stopping by for a talk at that someone’s home without your spouse is undoubtedly in the category of unfaithful behavior. You or the other person may say, "Hey, we’re both adults. Nothing’s going to happen." Well, things do happen. It’s not adequate. Go home and spend that time with your spouse.
Four. Talking negatively about your mate
When you are a true friend to someone you never say bad things about them to others. Your mate is your best friend and is the last person you should ever talk about negatively. If you have a beef with your honey, talk it out with him or her. Let your conversations with others concentrate on the good things about your spouse. That’s being faithful. The exception here is manhandle. If manhandle is happening it needs to be reported to a trusted friend, counselor, and the police. You must keep yourself safe.
Five. Talking on the Internet with someone of the opposite lovemaking
If you think this is harmless, think again. It may begin out that way, but it certainly won’t end that way. Some have engaged in what they considered guiltless talk with a former bf or gf from high school or college days, or even a stranger. One thing can lead to another and before you know it, your marriage is in jeopardy. Don’t do it. It will only end in sorrow and heartbreak for your family.
6. Dressing to attract the attention of someone other than your spouse
If you’re dressing up to look good for someone else, you need to reexamine your motives. Attempting to attract someone else by wearing a sexy looking clothing is one more way to hop into unfaithful waters.
7. Writing individual intimate notes or letters to someone else
If you’re writing a letter of condolence or congratulations, or other good wishes, let it be from both you and your spouse. Then there will be no misunderstanding about your intentions.
8. Not being a willing sexual playmate with your spouse
Being faithful to your spouse means providing yourself over to him or her to love the intimate side of your marriage. To withhold sexual proximity from your spouse if not doing your part in keeping your marriage strong and fulfilling. It creates sorrow and even suspicion. Being a faithful spouse means doing your part to make it a beautiful relationship in all aspects.
9. Putting your parents before your spouse
Your spouse must always be the number one person in your life. If something wonderful happens to you, like a promotion, a confirmation of a pregnancy, or any other good news, you may be tempted to instantaneously call a parent to share in the joy. Stand against. Let your spouse be the very first to know your good news. Then share it with others.
Ten. Putting your children before your spouse
Kids matter. They are very significant people in your life, but not more significant than your spouse. If you knock your spouse off the top of your priority list you are not demonstrating total fidelity to him or her. Your mate must come very first. Not only does it cement your marriage and make it stronger, it gives your children the best security blanket they will ever have.
Check yourself on these points and make sure you are being one hundred percent faithful to your spouse. By doing this you will create a genuinely glad and fulfilling marriage.
Ten ways you are being unfaithful to your spouse
Ten ways you are being unfaithful to your spouse — and you don't even know it
Having an affair is not even on your radar. Never gonna happen. You love your spouse and you’d never be unfaithful to her or him. However, you may be unaware of other ways you are being unfaithful. If these deeds proceed, you may find yourself on the greasy slope that leads to that never-intended affair and a sorrow you never dreamed in your life.
Unfaithfulness usually creeps in through the back door, disguising itself as harmless joy or harmless behavior. If you want your marriage to bear and be packed with happiness you may need to check this list to see if you have fallen prey to any of these unfaithful behaviors.
1. Flirting
Having a little playful joy at the office with a co-worker can’t be too bad, you may rationalize. After all, flirting is joy. Avoid it like the plague. It’s dangerous. If someone flirts with you, disregard it. What falls into the category of flirting? Here’s one explanation of what flirting is. "[It] usually involves speaking and behaving in a way that suggests a mildly greater closeness than the actual relationship inbetween the parties would justify, however within the rules of social etiquette, which generally disapproves of a direct expression of sexual interest. This may be accomplished by communicating a sense of playfulness or irony. Assets language can include flicking the hair, eye contact, brief touching, etc."
Married people should never engage in this type of behavior with anyone other than their spouse. It is a full-on form of unfaithfulness that leads to no good. The one you’re flirting with may take it as an invitation and pursue a relationship you never intended.
Two. Confiding in the opposite gender
When you pour out your troubles to someone of the opposite gender you are putting yourself in a vulnerable position. It may seem harmless. After all, you just needed a shoulder to sob on. If you’ve got a problem, talk about it with your spouse. That’s your best-ever shoulder to sob on. If that’s not working for you, attempt a trusted relative, clergyman, or therapist. Not someone who may consider this an invitation for proximity. Even if it doesn’t commence that way, too often it completes that way. It’s a form of unfaithfulness.
Three. Spending time alone with someone else
What emerges to be an harmless lunch out with someone of the opposite lovemaking or stopping by for a talk at that someone’s home without your spouse is undoubtedly in the category of unfaithful behavior. You or the other person may say, "Hey, we’re both adults. Nothing’s going to happen." Well, things do happen. It’s not adequate. Go home and spend that time with your spouse.
Four. Talking negatively about your mate
When you are a true friend to someone you never say bad things about them to others. Your mate is your best friend and is the last person you should ever talk about negatively. If you have a beef with your honey, talk it out with him or her. Let your conversations with others concentrate on the good things about your spouse. That’s being faithful. The exception here is manhandle. If manhandle is happening it needs to be reported to a trusted friend, counselor, and the police. You must keep yourself safe.
Five. Talking on the Internet with someone of the opposite hookup
If you think this is harmless, think again. It may embark out that way, but it certainly won’t end that way. Some have engaged in what they considered virginal talk with a former bf or gf from high school or college days, or even a stranger. One thing can lead to another and before you know it, your marriage is in jeopardy. Don’t do it. It will only end in sorrow and heartbreak for your family.
6. Dressing to attract the attention of someone other than your spouse
If you’re dressing up to look good for someone else, you need to reexamine your motives. Attempting to attract someone else by wearing a sexy looking clothing is one more way to leap into unfaithful waters.
7. Writing individual intimate notes or letters to someone else
If you’re writing a letter of condolence or congratulations, or other good wishes, let it be from both you and your spouse. Then there will be no misunderstanding about your intentions.
8. Not being a willing sexual playmate with your spouse
Being faithful to your spouse means providing yourself over to him or her to love the intimate side of your marriage. To withhold sexual intimity from your spouse if not doing your part in keeping your marriage strong and fulfilling. It creates sorrow and even suspicion. Being a faithful spouse means doing your part to make it a beautiful relationship in all aspects.
9. Putting your parents before your spouse
Your spouse must always be the number one person in your life. If something wonderful happens to you, like a promotion, a confirmation of a pregnancy, or any other good news, you may be tempted to instantly call a parent to share in the joy. Fight back. Let your spouse be the very first to know your good news. Then share it with others.
Ten. Putting your children before your spouse
Kids matter. They are very significant people in your life, but not more significant than your spouse. If you knock your spouse off the top of your priority list you are not demonstrating total fidelity to him or her. Your mate must come very first. Not only does it cement your marriage and make it stronger, it gives your children the best security blanket they will ever have.
Check yourself on these points and make sure you are being one hundred percent faithful to your spouse. By doing this you will create a genuinely blessed and fulfilling marriage.