276 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU MARRY

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276 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU MARRY

1. Are you working on your chosen field?

Two. How many hours a week do you work?

Three. What does your job entail? (For example, do you often travel for business, work at home, performs dangerous tasks?)

Four. What is your fantasy job?

Five. Have you ever been called a workaholic?

6. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?

7. Have you ever been fired?

8. Have you ever abandon a job all of a sudden? Have you switched jobs a lot?

9. Do you consider your work a career or just a job?

Ten. Has your work ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

11. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

12. Do you choose urban, suburban, or rural settings?

13. Is it significant to have your own private home, or do you choose apartment or condo living, with a management company responsible for the maintenance? Are you a do-it yourselfer, or would you rather hire professionals? Do you choose to clean your own home or hire a housekeeper?

14. Do you think of your home as a cocoon, or is your door always open? What do you need to feel energized and inspired in your home?

15. Is quiet significant in your home, or do you choose having music or some background noise most of the time? Is it significant to have a TV in the bedroom? Living room? Kitchen? Do you like to sleep with the TV or radio on?

16. How significant is it for you to have a space in your home that is yours alone?

17. Have differences about home style ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

Eighteen. If you had unlimited resources, how would you live?

Nineteen. How significant is it for you to make a lot of money?

20. What is your annual income?

21. Do you pay alimony or child support?

22 Do you believe in prenuptial agreements? Under what circumstances?

23. Do you believe in establishing a family budget?

24. Should individuals within a marriage have separate bank accounts in addition to joint accounts? Do you feel that bills should be divided based on a percentage of each person’s salary?

25. Who should treat the finances in your family?

26. Do you have significant debts?

27. Do you gamble?

28. Did you have a paying job when you were in high school? Before high school?

29. Have you ever been called cheap or stingy?

30. Do you believe that a certain amount of money should be set aside for pleasure, even if you�re on a taut budget?

31. Have you ever used money as a way of controlling a relationship? Has anyone ever attempted to control you with money?

32. Has money ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

RELATIONSHIP HISTORY

33. Have you ever felt deeply insecure in a relationship? Were you able to name your fear?

34. When was the very first time you felt that you were in love with another person? What happened in that relationship, and how have you come to terms with it?

35. What is the longest relationship you have ever had prior to this one? Why did it end, and what lesson did you learn?

36. Have you ever been married? If so, are you divorced or widowed? How do you think you treated the loss?

37. If you have a current fucking partner, do they know of behaviors that you exhibited in your previous relationship that you�re not proud of?

36. Do you believe that past relationships should be left in the past and not talked about in your current relationship?

39. Do you tend to judge current playmates on past relationships?

40. Have you ever sought marriage counseling? What did the practice train you?

41. Do you have children from previous marriages or non-marital relationships? What is your relationship with them? How do you see your relationship with them in the future?

42. Have you ever been engaged to be married but didn�t go through with the wedding?

43. Have you ever had a live-in fucking partner? Why did you choose to live together instead of marrying? What did your practice instruct you about the importance of marriage and about commitment?

44. Do you harbor fears that the person you love might reject you or fail out of love with you?

45. What sexual activities do you love the most? Are there specific sexual acts that make you awkward? Be specific! This is no time to hedge.

46. Do you feel convenient initiating lovemaking? If yes, why? If no, why?

47. What do you need in order to be in the mood for hookup?

48. Have you ever been sexually manhandled or assaulted?

48. What was the attitude toward lovemaking in your family? Was it talked about? Who trained you about hook-up?

50. Do you use hookup to self-medicate? If something upsets you, do you use hookup to attempt and help you feel better?

51. Have you ever felt compelled to have hook-up to �keep the peace�? Have you ever coerced someone or been told that you compelled someone to have lovemaking with you to �keep the peace�?

52. Is sexual fidelity an absolute necessity in a good marriage?

53. Do you love viewing pornography?

54. How often do you need or expect lovemaking?

55. Have you ever a sexual relationship with a person of the same hookup?

56. Has sexual dissatisfaction ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

HEALTH

57. How would you describe the current state of your health?

58. Have you ever had a serious illness? Have you ever had surgery?

58. Do you believe it is a sacred responsibility to take care of yourself? Do you believe that taking care of your physical and mental health is a part of honoring your marriage vows?

60. Are there genetic diseases in your family or a history of cancer, heart disease, or chronic illness?

61. Do you have health insurance? Dental insurance?

62. Do you belong to a gym? If so, how much time do you spend at the gym every week?

63. Do you play sports or take exercise classes?

64. Have you ever been in a physically or emotionally abusive relationship?

65. Have you ever suffered from an eating disorder?

66. Have you ever been in a serious accident?

67. Do you take medication?

68. Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease?

P.. Have you ever been treated for a mental disorder?

70. Do you see a therapist?

71. Do you smoke, or have you ever smoked?

72. Do you consider yourself an addictive personality, and have you ever suffered from an addiction? Have you ever been told you have an addiction problem, even tho’ you might disagree?

73. How much alcohol do you drink every week?

74. Do you use recreational drugs?

75. Do you have a medical problem that impacts your capability to have a satisfying lovemaking life (for example, erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, vaginal dryness, drug/alcohol addiction, etc)?

76. Have any of these health problems ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

APPEARANCE

77. How significant is it that you always look your best?

78. How significant is your spouse�s appearance? Do you have strong preferences about being with a particular physical �type�?

70. Are there cosmetic procedures that you regularly fall under?

80. Is weight control significant to you? Is your spouse�s weight significant to you? What would your reaction be if your playmate were to build up a significant amount of weight?

81. How much money do you spend on clothing every year?

82. Do you worry about getting old? Do you worry about losing your looks?

83. What do you like and dislike about your appearance? When you were a child, were you often complimented or shamed about your looks?

84. What would your reaction be if your spouse lost a limb? A breast? How would you treat this loss?

85. Do you feel that you can have good chemistry with someone who is moderately physically attractive to you, or is a strong physical attraction necessary? Has physical appearance or �chemistry� ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

PARENTHOOD

86. Do you want children? When? How many? Are you incapable to have children?

87. Would you feel unfulfilled if you were incapable to have children?

88. Who is responsible for birth control? What would you do if there were an accidental pregnancy before you planned to have children?

88. What is your view of fertility treatments? Adoption? Would you adopt if you were incapable to have a child naturally?

90. What is your view of abortion? Should a hubby have an equal say in whether his wifey has an abortion? Have you ever had an abortion?

91. Have you ever given birth to a child or fathered a child who was put up for adoption?

92. How significant is it to you that your children are raised near your extended family?

93. Do you believe that a good mother will want to breast-feed her baby? Do you believe a mother or father should stay at home with a child during the very first six months of life? The very first year? Longer?

94. Do you believe in spanking a child? What type of discipline do you believe in (time-out, standing in the corner, taking away privileges, etc.)?

95. Do you believe that children have rights? Do you feel that a child�s opinion should be considered when making family and life decisions, such as moving or switching schools?

96. Do you believe that children should be raised with some religious or spiritual foundation?

97. Should boys be treated the same as chicks? Should they have the same rules for conduct? Should you have the same expectations for their sexual behavior?

96. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she was sexually active?

97. How would you treat it if you didn�t like your child�s friends?

98. Would you put your teenage daughter on birth control if you knew that she was sexually active?

99. How would you treat it if you didn’t like your child’s friends?

100. In a blended family; should birth parents be in charge of making decisions for their own children?

101. Would you ever consider getting a vasectomy or having your tubes tied? Do you believe it�s your choice, or does your playmate have a say?

102. Have differences concerning conception or child-raising ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

EXTENDED FAMILIES

103. Are you close to your family?

104. Are you or have you ever been alienated from your family?

105. Do you have a difficult time setting thresholds with family?

106. Have you identified the childhood wound that may have sabotaged your relationships in the past�the deeply imprinted fear that made you want to escape? How were you most hurt in your family; and who hurt you?

107. How significant is it that you and your fucking partner be on good terms with each other�s families?

106. How did your parents lodge conflicts when you were a child? Do people in your family carry long-term grudges?

109. How much influence do your parents still have over your decisions?

110. Have unresolved or ongoing family issues ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

FRIENDS

111. Do you have a �best friend�?

112. Do you see a close friend or friends at least once a week? Do you speak to any of your friends on the phone every day?

113. Are your friendships as Significant to you as your life playmate is?

114. If your friends need you, are you there for them?

115. Is it significant to you for your playmate to accept and like your friends?

116. Is it significant that you and your playmate have friends in common?

117. Do you have a difficult time setting boundaries with friends?

118. Has a fucking partner ever been responsible for violating up a friendship? Have friends ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

119. Are you an animal paramour?

120. Do you have a dog, cat, or other beloved pet?

121. Is your attitude �Love me, love my dog [cat; potbellied pig]?�

122. Have you ever been physically aggressive with an animal? Have you deliberately hurt an animal?

123. Do you believe a person should give up his or her pet if it interferes with the relationship?

124. Do you consider pets members of your family?

125. Have you ever been jealous of a partner�s relationship with a pet?

126. Have disagreements about pets ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

POLITICS

127. Do you consider yourself liberal, moderate, or conservatives, or do you reject political labels? What was the attitude in your family about political involvement and social activity?

128. Do you belong to a political party? Are you actively involved?

128. Did you vote in the last presidential election? Congressional election? Local election?

130. Do you believe that two people of differing political ideologies can have a successful marriage?

131. Do you believe that the political system is skewed against people of color, poor people, and the disenfranchised?

132. Which political issues do you care about? (For example, equality national security, privacy, the environment, the budget; women�s rights, gay rights, human rights, etc.).

133. Has politics ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

COMMUNITY

134. Is it significant for you to be involved in your local community?

135. Do you like having a close relationship with your neighbors? For example, would you give a neighbor a spare key to your home?

136. Do you regularly participate in community projects?

137. Do you believe that good fences make good neighbors?

138. Have you ever had a serious dispute with a neighbor?

139. Do you take anguishes to be considerate of your neighbors (for example, keeping a lid on noisy music, barking dogs, etc.)?

CHARITY

140. How significant is it to you to contribute time or money to charity?

141. Which kind of charities do you like to support? How much of your annual income do you donate to charity?

142. Do you feel that it is the responsibility of the �haves� of the world to help the �have-nots�?

143. Have attitudes about charitable contributions ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

MILITARY

144. Have you served in the military?

145. Have your parents or other relatives served in the military?

146. Would you want your children to serve in the military?

147. Do you personally identify more with a nonviolent treatment, or with making switch through military force and activity?

148. Has military service or attitudes about military service ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

THE LAW

149. Do you consider yourself a law-abiding person?

150. Have you ever committed a crime? If yes, what was it?

151. Have you ever been arrested? If yes, for what?

152. Have you ever been in jail? If yes, why?

153. Have you ever been involved in a legal activity or lawsuit? If yes, what were the circumstances?

154. Have you ever been the victim of a violent crime? If yes, describe what happened.

156. Do you believe it�s significant to be rigorously fair when you pay taxes?

156. Have you ever failed to pay child support? If so, why?

157. Have legal or criminal issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

MEDIA

158. Where do you get your news (for example, TV news programs, radio, newspapers, newsmagazines, the Internet, friends)?

159. Do you believe what you read and see in the news, or do you question where information is coming from and what the true agenda is?

100. Do you seek out media with diverse perspectives on the news?

161. Have media differences ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

RELIGION

162. Do you believe in God? What does that mean to you?

163. Do you have a current religious affiliation? Is it a big part of your life?

164. When you were growing up, did your family belong to a church, synagogue, temple, or mosque?

185. Do you presently practice a different religion from the one in which you were raised?

166. Do you believe in life after death?

167. Does your religion impose any behavioral limitations (dietary, social, familial, sexual) that would affect your fucking partner?

168. Do you consider yourself a religious person? A spiritual person?

169. Do you engage in spiritual practices outside of organized religion?

170. How significant is it to you for your playmate to share your religious beliefs?

171. How significant is it to you for your children to be raised in your religion?

172. Is spirituality a part of your daily life and practice?

173. Has religion or spiritual practice ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

CULTURE

174. Does popular culture have an significant influence on your life?

175. Do you spend time reading about, watching, or discussing actors, musicians, models, or other celebrities?

176. Do you think most celebrities have a better, more arousing life than you do? (By the way, if they do, maybe it’s because they are living their lives, while you are watching them live their lives. Are you wasting the chance and bounty to live your own life?)

177. Do you regularly go to the movies, or do you choose to rent movies and see them at home?

178. What is your dearest style of music?

179. Do you attend concerts featuring your dearest musicians?

180. Do you love going to museums or art shows?

181. Do you like to dance?

182. Do you like to see TV for entertainment?

183. Have attitudes or behaviors around popular culture ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

LEISURE

184. What is your idea of a joy day?

185. Do you have a hobby that�s significant to you?

186. Do you love spectator sports?

187. Are certain seasons off-limits for other activities because of football, baseball, basketball, or other sports?

168. What activities do you love that don�t involve your fucking partner? How significant is it to you that you and your playmate love the same leisure activities?

189. How much money do you regularly spend on leisure activities?

190. Do you love activities that might make your playmate awkward, such as draping out in bars drinking, going to unwrap clubs, or gambling?

191. Have leisure time issues ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

192. Do you love entertaining, or do you worry that you�ll do something wrong or people won�t have a good time?

193. Is it significant for you to attend social events regularly, or does the prospect uncommonly appeal to you?

194. Do you look forward to at least one night out every week, or do you choose to love yourself at home?

195. Does your work involve attending social functions? If so, are these occasions a cargo or a pleasure? Do you expect your spouse to be present, or do you choose that your spouse not be present?

196. Do you socialize primarily with people from work, or with people from the same ethnic/racial/religious/ socioeconomic background? Or do you socialize with a diverse mix of people?

197. Are you usually the �life of the party," or do you dislike being singled out for attention?

198. Have you or a fucking partner ever had an argument caused by one or the other�s behavior at a social function?

199. Have differences about socializing ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

HOLIDAY AND BIRTHDAYS

286. Which (if any holidays do you believe are the most significant to feast?

201. Do you maintain a family tradition around certain holidays?

202. How significant are bday celebrations to you? Anniversaries?

203. Have differences about holidays/birthdays ever been a factor for you in the breakup of a relationship?

TRAVEL / VACATIONS

204. Do you love traveling, or are you a homebody?

205. Are vacation getaways an significant part of your yearly planning?

206. How much of your annual income do you designate for vacation and travel expenses?

207. Do you have dearest vacation destinations? Do you believe it’s wasteful to spend money on vacations to distant places?

206. Do you think it’s significant to have a passport? To speak a foreign language?

209. Have disputes about travel and vacation ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

EDUCATION

210. What is your level of formal education? Is your education a source of pride or shame?

211. Do you regularly sign up for courses that interest you, or enroll in advanced-learning programs that will help you in your career or profession?

212. Do you think that college graduates are smarter than people who didn�t attend college? Have disparities in education ever been a source of strain for you in a relationship, or ended a relationship?

213. How do you feel about private school education for children? Do you have a limit on how much you would be willing to invest in private school education?

214. Have education levels or priorities ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

TRANSPORTATION

215. Do you own or lease a car? Would you ever consider not having a car?

216. Is the year, make, and model of the car you drive significant to you? Is your car your �castle�?

217. Are fuel efficiency and environmental protection factors when you choose a car?

218. Given the availability of reliable public transportation, would you choose not to drive a car at all?

219. How much time do you spend maintaining and caring for your vehicle? Are you reluctant to let others drive your car?

220. How long is your daily commute? Is it by bus, train, car, or carpool?

221. Do you consider yourself a good driver? Have you ever received a speeding ticket?

222. Have cars or driving ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

COMMUNICATION

223. How much time do you spend on the phone every day?

224. Do you have a cell phone? A BlackBerry?

225. Do you belong to any Internet talk groups? Do you spend significant time each day writing c-mails?

226. Do you have an unlisted telephone number? If yes, why?

227. Do you consider yourself a communicator or a private person?

228. What are the circumstances under which you would not reaction the telephone, cell phone, or BlackBerry?

229. Has modem communication ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

MEALTIME

230. Do you like to eat most of your meals sitting at the table, or do you tend to eat on the run?

231. Do you love to cook? Do you love to eat? 232. When you were growing up, was it significant that everybody be present for dinner?

233. Do you go after a specific diet regimen that thresholds your food choices? Do you expect others in your household to adhere to certain dietary confinements?

234. In your family is food ever used as a bribe or a proof of love?

235. Has eating ever been a source of shame for you?

236. Have eating and food ever been a source of strain and stress in a relationship? Have they ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

GENDER ROLE

237. Are there household responsibilities you believe to be the foot domain of a man or a woman? Why do you believe this?

238. Do you believe that marriages are stronger if a woman defers to her spouse in most areas? Do you need to feel either in control or taken care of?

239. How significant is equality in a marriage? Define what you mean by �equality.�

340. Do you believe that roles in your family should be packed by the person best tooled for the job, even if it is an unconventional arrangement?

341. How did your family view the roles of chicks and boys, studs and women? In your family; could anyone do any job as long as it got done well?

242. Have different ideas about gender roles ever been a source of pressure for you in a relationship, or the cause of a breakup?

RACE, ETHNICITY, AND DIFFERENCES

243. What did you learn about race and ethnic differences as a child?

244. Which of those beliefs from childhood do you still carry; and which have you shed?

245. Does your work environment look more like the United Nations, or like a mirror of yourself? How about your private life?

246. How would you feel if your child dated someone of a different race or ethnicity? The same gender? How would you feel if he or she married this person?

247. Are you aware of your own biases regarding race and ethnicity? What are they? Where did they come from? (We aren�t born biased, we learn it, and it�s significant to trace where it was learned.)

248. Have race, ethnicity, and differences ever been a source of pressure and stress for you in a relationship?

249. What were your family�s views of race, ethnicity, and difference?

250. Is it significant to you that your playmate shares your vision of race, ethnicity, and difference?

251. Have different ideas about race, ethnicity

and difference ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

LIVING EVERY DAY

252. Would you consider yourself a morning person or a night person?

213. Do you judge people who have a different waking and sleeping clock than you?

254 Are you a physically affectionate person?

255. What is your beloved season of the year?

256. When you disagree with your fucking partner, do you tend to fight or withdraw?

257. What is your idea of a fair division of labor in your household?

258. Do you consider yourself an easygoing person, or are you most comfy with a rigid plan of activity?

256. How much sleep do you need every night?

260. Do you like to be freshly showered and wearing clean clothes every day, even on weekends or vacations?

261. What is your idea of flawless refreshment?

262. What makes you indeed angry? What do you do when you�re indeed angry?

263. What makes you most joyful? What do you do when you are joyful?

264. What makes you most insecure? How do you treat your insecurities?

265. What makes you most secure?

266. Do you fight fair? How do you know?

267. How do you feast when something excellent happens? How do you mourn when something tragic happens?

268. What is your greatest limitation?

269. What is your greatest strength?

270. What most stands in the way of your creating a sultry and caring marriage?

271. What do you need to do today to stir toward making your desire marriage a reality?

272. What makes you most afraid?

273. What drains you of your joy and passion?

274. What replenishes your mind, assets, and spirit?

275. What makes your heart smile in raunchy times?

276 QUESTIONS TO ASK BEFORE YOU MARRY

1. Are you working on your chosen field?

Two. How many hours a week do you work?

Three. What does your job entail? (For example, do you often travel for business, work at home, performs dangerous tasks?)

Four. What is your wish job?

Five. Have you ever been called a workaholic?

6. What is your retirement plan? What do you plan to do when you stop working?

7. Have you ever been fired?

8. Have you ever abandon a job abruptly? Have you switched jobs a lot?

9. Do you consider your work a career or just a job?

Ten. Has your work ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

11. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

12. Do you choose urban, suburban, or rural settings?

14. Do you think of your home as a cocoon, or is your door always open? What do you need to feel energized and inspired in your home?

16. How significant is it for you to have a space in your home that is yours alone?

17. Have differences about home style ever been a factor in the breakup of a relationship?

Legal. If you had unlimited resources, how would you live?