How to commence a conversation on Tinder

After following my advice on how you optimize your tinder profile, you should at least dual the number of matches you get. Now it’s time to turn those matches into numbers, but very first you need to begin a conversation.

When to write your very first message

If you wrote a powerful bio, she might already write you very first, which is a flawless way to commence. But most of the time it's you, who will embark the conversation. It doesn’t matter how long you wait after the match, what’s significant is the time of the day. You don’t want to write her when she’s busy because her answers won’t get you far, and you will have to wait hours for her reply. It's much tighter to build a connection or chemistry if your interaction is permanently interrupted.

A latest investigate has analyzed at which time people are using several apps and how long they use them. The examine is hard to read and the graphs are a little confusing so I edited them, eliminated the other apps, switched the color and put both Tinder-Graphs onto each other. Now you can lightly see what's the flawless time to write her:

The yellow graph is interesting, but what's more significant to us is the crimson graph. It shows the time when people spend the most minutes on Tinder and you can see that the engagement inbetween six PM and twelve PM is the highest with a peak at nine PM.

It's the time when most people come home from work and do something that they love. She should be relaxed, in the right mood and ready to begin a conversation. Another benefit is that she will be free to take your call afterward, so that you can make a deeper connection and set up a date.

Avoid these Opening Lines!

“Hey, how are you?” That’s the line 90% of guys are using. Don’t use it, because she will think you are just another boring man who isn’t creative or funny. The best ladies are only on Tinder for entertainment (9 types of women) but if a fellow is interesting enough, she will meet him. You become this fellow by using the following skill to your advantage to separate yourself from the crowd.

Popular Pick Up Lines. Some guys are a little smarter, they attempt to be funny by using pickup lines. Unluckily, a lot of them are not funny at all, and if they are funny, she has very likely heard it before. It might work, but to increase your overall success rate, you should avoid these too.

Dirty Pick Up Lines. A lot of guys have the false impression that Tinder is a Hookup App because it's the easiest way to get a date. But the number of damsels that just want to get laid isn't as high as most people think. In reality, the majority of chicks just want to have some dates and eventually find someone for a relationship. Of course, there are also ladies who are just looking for joy, but you have to identify them. Ladies who are looking for a relationship will instantly delete you because you make her feel like a hoe by sending dirty messages upfront. You have to determine inbetween finding a gf and getting laid because it's a different game, where you also have to use the right photos and way of writing.

Long Texts. The worst way to open a doll on tinder is to copy and paste one of these long texts. She will certainly know that you are sending this to all chicks. Even if she doesn't notice that, she will think that you are desperate and have too much time. Otherwise, you wouldn't put so much effort into one match. A female blogger once wrote: “it seems kind of weird when a dude (I've infrequently seen women do this) sends an enormous very first message all about how he knows based on your profile photo that you’re totally his type and you two totally need to suspend out together.”

Complimenting her looks. Don’t tell her how pretty she is. She knows it already because she has heard it a million times before. It’s a very fine line, and just a few studs can compliment a woman, without losing attraction. Unluckily, her appearance and maybe the bio is all you got because you don't know her personality before the opener. If you want to write her a compliment, make it about her style sense, because then you are complimenting her taste, which is something that happens in her brain and is part of her personality.

How to create your own S.U.P.E.R. Opener

You can create your own openers or customize the ones that someone else has invented. The ones that work very well for me are at the end of this article. Here is some advice that you should keep in mind when you create your unique opening lines.

Brief. Don’t write more than two sentences in your very first message. Many guys are writing her, therefore damsels on Tinder are lazy and have a brief attention span. If your opening line is too long, she won’t read it. Also, reminisce what I mentioned above, you can increase your effort after she proves that she is worth it. For an attractive stud she is just another pretty face, so keep your value.

Unique. I made sure that the pickup lines, which I’m going to give you later on, are not popular yet. You don’t want to use a line that she has already read before. It won’t work, it’s lame, and she very likely won’t reaction, because she will feel like one of many. Give her the impression that you are creative and interested in her as a person. The easiest way to be unique is to be more individual.

Individual. Writing her name is one step in the right direction. Take a closer look at each of her photos, is there anything unusual or interesting? Bring up something about it. Attempt to guess what type of person she is and make statements about her. It doesn’t matter if you’re right, even if you’re downright wrong, it gives you something to proceed the conversation with.

Entertaining. Chicks just want to have joy. Be playful and funny, a laugh is always beneficial and make it much lighter to proceed. The best ladies are not despairingly searching for a bf on Tinder. They use it for entertainment, it’s your job to keep them want more of you. Pro Peak: Make up a brief story or a joke about her, but be careful it can lightly backfire if she is sensitive and you cross her line.

Repeatable. You will open a lot of damsels, so it’s significant to make it time efficient. Concentrate on a few lines that not only work but are also lightly adjustable. It will take some time to find your best opening lines, choose about five different ones and attempt each on at least ten ladies. Afterward compare the results and keep testing the best lines even more. Not every line will work on every chick the same way. Use softer openers for sweet guiltless ladies and be a little firmer to very attractive and bitchy chicks. Have a beloved line for each type of lady.

I named it S.U.P.E.R. Opener because if you read just the very first letters, they will make the word “Super”. It will make it lighter for you to reminisce.

Be aware of your own type, what works for one fellow can come off a little awkward from another boy. In the chapter about the flawless profile, I have explained how to find out which type you should present.

Five Example Lines with Screenshots

The following opening lines are the best way to commence a conversation on tinder. I have attempted over one hundred pick up lines, which were recommended in some eBooks and articles. Some worked, but 90% did not, so I improved them and created my own ones. After weeks of testing, I present you five of the best tinder openers that work. I also fastened screenshots of some reactions and how you can proceed from there.

Standard line, instead of a plain “Hey what’s up?”. This get’s her to smile because she doesn't hear it all the time. Works well with the sweet ones, they are used to be called nice, so they might ask you why you’re calling her a gangster. After that, you can use “How is thug life going?” instead of “How are you doing?” to sound wittier.

She will either say “No, you don't” or “Where do you know me from?”. In both situations, you can make up a funny little story. She will be amused and hopefully play along. Don't attempt to make up a realistic story, it won't work and she will think you're weird. If she says “No, you don’t” you can also go a different way by framing it as if you meant that you know her type. Tell her something like “You're the kind of chick that …”. It shows you have some practice with different types of women, and she will be nosey to know why you think this way about her.

Unnecessary to say, you should only use this opener at night. Similar to the previous one, some will attempt to prove you that they are still good ladies. Others will think it's funny and recall the time when it was cool to be such a bad woman, who is awake so late. It's effortless to go after up with the reasons why both of you are still awake, or you can further talk about this good / bad woman topic. You can also use it flawlessly to determine what type of dame she is. Her reaction will be a lot better to this funny vibe than if you boldly ask something like “Are you looking for hookup or a relationship?”, no damsel will give you an fair response to this.

Four. Does that mean we are bf and gf now?

Of course, she knows that you are not serious. That's the key, you show up sweet and virginal to her consciousness but subconscious she knows that only someone who doesn't care much would bring such a line. Having a (slightly) careless attitude is attractive, because it's something that all guys who have an abundance with women have in common. She will also let her guard down because you don't seem like someone who is just looking to hookup.

Five. What is a nice dame like you doing on tinder?

This line is a good mix inbetween a compliment and a light accusation. Just the compliment would be boring, but in this context it helps to build up her affection. She feels a little special because you sound astonished to see a doll that’s different than all the others. Tinder has the reputation of being a hookup app (which isn’t true), and no female wants to be seen as a bi-atch, that’s why especially good damsels feel slightly ashamed for using it. Now she is in the situation to explain herself, which increases the number of responses. She wants to confirm your assumption that she’s a nice damsel, but at the same time, she can’t admit that she’s looking for a bf because that would emerge desperate. Chances are high that she comes up with an reaction, that makes it effortless to built a conversation upon.

These lines will help you to warm her up. It's significant that you don't wait too long after that line, proceed with the transition and commence a conversation.

Recall what I said about uniqueness?

Openers don’t work, if the damsel has heard them before. These five work very well, but I have to keep my dearest lines for premium members so that they stay unpopular and powerful. Tinder can makes it amazingly effortless to date fresh ladies, but only a few guys know the secrets to set themselves apart from the rest. If you're serious about finding a high-quality gf, I strongly recommend you to check out Tinder Booster, so I can instruct you all the secrets how to find a gf.

How to get her number and a date

The purpose of pick up or opening lines is to open a conversation. Getting her to reply is a good embark, but what do you say after that? What if she doesn't react at all? Even when you got a good response, it's very effortless to mess it up, by not having anything interesting to talk about. Sometimes the words just flow but most conversations become boring quickly. I told you that women on Tinder have a very brief attention span, so it's better to be ready before she lost interest and the next boy has taken over.

I spend over a year to uncover every little trick that helps you to date more and higher quality chicks on tinder. With the help of my notes, my brother and three of my best friends, have found their girlfriends on Tinder. Let me guide you through the process of creating the flawless profile. How to choose exactly those photos, that trigger her attraction and get more matches than ever before. Learn how to find the right words and have good conversations. There are a lot of mistakes that most guys are doing and a lot of puny tips that help you to get her number. Know how to make that significant phone call to set up a date, because she can't wait to meet you.

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